You & I, probably multiple times in our lives, have been hurt by someone’s words. Other times, you & I, probably multiple times in our lives, have done the hurting. Little comments here and there might not seem to do much harm, but when feelings are vulnerable to an attack, pain ensues no matter how aggressive the jab.
Bullying has been a hot topic, mostly in schools, over the past few years. Our little ones might come home and tell how their feelings were hurt today by someone in their class who said something mean to them. Or you might be the one slighted in the workplace by your colleagues or superiors. It’s not right and it does hurt. We all want to be liked and treated fairly. But what happens when we are not?
Perspective is powerful and I’m hoping these words help you cope with feeling belittled. Even more so, I hope this perspective can provide a talking point for you and your children when they encounter bullying. It’s a simple concept with a mighty message.
God created us, right? He made man, woman, boy and girl, and the rest of the entire Universe; nothing new there. Ready for the perspective check? When others insult you, they are also telling God that He messed up on His creation. Now that’s NOT what my Bible says. God is perfect and therefore does not make mistakes.
Psalm 139: 13-16 says,
“For you formed my inward parts;
you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
My frame was not hidden from you,
when I was being made in secret,
intricately woven in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed substance;
in your book were written, every one of them,
the days that were formed for me,
when as yet there was none of them.”
You are perfect the way you are and exactly how God intended you to be. So, the next time you feel put-down, just remember who created you: the same God that put the stars in the sky and knows them all by name!
Nothing goes unnoticed by God. He sees the pain that bullying causes. He hurts when you hurt, He weeps when you are in tears. He wants you to see what He sees: His Masterpiece!
I urge you to remember this when someone calls you or your child a name. Talk to your child about how God feels about them, how precious your child is in His sight. He does not make mistakes. When those bullies are throwing insults your way the King of Kings is also insulted because His beautiful creation is being called less-than-perfect. Hold your head up high and remember who and whose you are!
One more thought… try your best to control that natural desire to fight back with the same negativity. Your Father will be SO PROUD of you! Yes, He also created those who are doing the hurting; though He is not pleased nor glorified by their actions. This will be a perfect opportunity for you (or your child) to show Christ through how you respond. Shine your Light! Find peace, confidence and self-worth in the Almighty, All-knowing, Holy God.
Remember whose you are & Keep Shining!
~ Lindsey Alaine